Mom Isn’t Here?!
My wife is a superhero. Our home runs like a well oiled machine most days, and that is predominantly due to her efforts. Though there may be no newspaper articles or awards for her work, what she does on a daily basis is some of the most important work in our family.
It would surely not be possible for me to skip off to work everyday without all that she does. She does laundry, packs lunches, cleans and keeps two young boys alive (no small feat). Oh and by the way, she also is a pediatrician that practices three days a week and sees a crazy amount of patients. I married up in a big way, so it’s important that she know how much I think of her.
One of my greatest fears is not communicating enough how much I appreciate her. I sometimes put my head down and forget to do these type of things during my day.
I have tried to be diligent about making this a priority each day. She deserves to know how much I love and appreciate her. That is not optional and there is no excuse for letting that slip.
Even better, it doesn’t have to be complicated! Just drop in a “thank you” or “I appreciate you” regularly. That is really all that she wants, hearing me say that I value her. The occasional note or gift is nice, but the real money is in the daily words of affirmation.
I have found that one of the best ways of communicating my appreciation to her is by pulling my own weight around the house. Though my own chore list is not as extensive as hers, accomplishing the list with excellence shows that I value what happens in our house.
If I blow off my household duties, then it is obvious to her that I think these tasks are unimportant. How does that make her feel?
Occupy the Kids
I love my little rug rats like no other, but sometimes a parent needs a break. My wife spends a lot more time wrangling them than I do, and she often just needs a few moments without a toddler pulling on her leg.
I have found these are great moments to start a father vs. sons wrestling match or Nerf gun war, anything to keep them out of her hair for a bit. It works out well for me too because I get to have some fun with them and forget about medicine, work etc.
My wife will often sneak away to read a book or just sit in a room by herself for a few minutes. It never fails that she tells me how nice it was to have a few moments with no one else around.
Treat Them As Equals
At the end of the day, you and your spouse are doing life together. Any accomplishment one does, you both do. Everything has to get done each day for both of you to be successful.
Remember that! Make it a priority to communicate how much you care. Participate in daily life with them. If you do happen to win an award, then take your spouse with you to receive it and recognize them at the ceremony. There is no one else that will be as close to you through life’s ups and downs. Value that relationship as much as you can. Oh, and for those just starting out, make sure you pick a rockstar like I did!
Leave me a comment! How do you show your appreciation to your spouse? Leave your best tips for the rest of us!